Comments on: At what point should you settle?

By: natasha

natasha — Tue, 24 May 2011 01:58:33 +0000

Yes I agree with you wholeheartedly however the book you are referring to has nothing to do with settling. The cover of the book causes a stir but has nothing to do with pushing women to settle. If you read the book it is about single women being to fussy with their checklist for a man wanting a 10 out of 10 and not settling for any less. THen in the blink of an eye they wake up aged 40 and realise that the superfical list that wanted is their younger days was way too superfical and they would now take an 8 out of 10. However being older their market value is not as high and they realise they may not even get an 8 out of 10 more a 5 out of 10. Competition is fierce with the younger spring chickens coming into the market place. The author is not telling women to settle, just to be more realistic about their expectations when it comes to what they want from a relationship. Women need to get real. That is all the author is telling us, before its too late and you regret what a good guy you let go of because he was only a 9.

By: Victoria Bailey

Victoria Bailey — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 15:05:50 +0000

Thanks Meghan…and yes, really great point! As a recovering perfectionist… I can attest to the fact that it is a very fine line
Your suggestion to live outside the comfort zone is a good barometer. What has also worked for me is checking in with myself and how my body feels, and being conscious to be happy in the present, regardless of future goals. The downside of being goal-oriented and motivated to do better, is missing out on the good things that are happening right now.

By: Meghan (Making Love In The Kitchen)

Meghan (Making Love In The Kitchen) — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 14:52:02 +0000

I am so with you! Though considering our parallel paths, it’s not surprising. It’s a fine line though between settling or thinking something is ‘good enough’ and then thinking that when things are great, it’s still not good enough. That could lead to chronic dissatisfaction. I think the true value in that striving comes from being willing to improve things, and put yourself out there- at least a little- to be scared, to be uncomfortable, to dive into the unknown… Then we get the growth and change.