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At what point should you settle?

by Victoria Bailey on April 21, 2010

in Life & Career

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I was in Chapters this weekend, browsing the wellness and self-help sections (my favorite sections of the bookstore ever since I can remember) when I came across a book that really triggered an emotional response in me – I won’t get into the name and author, but essentially the point of the book was an argument for the ‘advantages’ of settling for “Mr. Good Enough”. And “settling” in general.

Hence the inspiration for this post.  The author’s main point (from what I could gather in 10 minutes of flipping through the highlights) was that part of the reason we (particularly women) are so unhappy these days is that in a world so full of excess, our expectations have gotten too high. Essentially we want too much out of life. Hence… we over scrutinize men, holding out for a perfect ideal that we may never meet and hence may end up old and alone.  I’m sorry but….I couldn’t disagree more.

The idea of finding the perfect man vs a healthy and fulfilling relationship is a whole other topic, today I want to talk a little more about the idea of settling.  The issue of “settling” has always been something I’ve been very conscious of, I’m not sure why, but it’s one of those things that even as a teenager I became very aware of.  From the time I can remember, I’ve been fascinated by the question of why some people grow up to lead extraordinary lives and others settle for average. More

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Are you ready for change?

by Victoria Bailey on January 28, 2010

in Life & Career

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As a coach, I get to help people transform their lives.  I get such joy from seeing the physical and emotional transformation that takes place when my clients create the lifestyle and life they have imagined for themselves.  While I wish I could spread this feeling to everyone, the reality is that not everyone is ready for change. At least not in this present moment, and the present moment is all that matters.

I often meet individuals that inquire about my services or are curious about life coaching and seem genuinely interested working with me, and then they don’t call me back for months. Are they afraid of change? Perhaps. Are they procrastinating? Maybe. Are they ready to make a change? Probably not.

Here’s the thing. Fear will always exist. So will the list of reasons why this is not the best time in your life to do the thing you want to do. Until you are ready, you’re not ready. It’s as simple as that. Whether it’s changing your diet or starting an exercise routine, changing jobs or careers, moving to another country, or leaving the comfort and security of a familiar relationship; there is always going to be an aspect of fear and discomfort associated with making any type of significant change in your life. More

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Make 2010 your best year yet!

by Victoria Bailey on December 26, 2009

in Life & Career

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I’m writing this post from the beaches of beautiful, sunny Punta Cana.

It’s been raining for 2 days now (so much for the sunny part), but I’m taking advantage of the weather to sit under the palapa and get some work done. There’s a bright side to everything right!  Going down south during the holidays has become a tradition for my fiancee and I. The first year that we took our trip, we had no intention of making a tradition out of it, but it ended up being such a fantastic way to spend the holidays and start a new year that we were hooked.

For us, coming here is so much more than escaping the snow or having somewhere to celebrate the New Year’s festivities. Though, believe it or not it is also a great way to spend Christmas. We have found that slowing down and being present every day really allows us to enjoy the holidays with one another. But ultimately, this is truly our time to re-set, re-energize and plan for the year ahead. It allows us time to reflect on all of our accomplishments and everything that we’ve experienced over the past 12 months. Most of all, it’s the most precious two weeks we have alone together, with no interruptions and workplace emergencies. For two ambitious and focused professionals, this is a rare thing and so we are very conscious to enjoy every minute. More

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Your thoughts create your reality

by Victoria Bailey on October 27, 2009

in Life & Career

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GettyImages_90996836Some people find this concept a little New Age. They immediately think of movies like The Secret and Law of Attraction. However the power of thought is an idea that goes far being marketing gimmicks and “self help” talk.

As part of my practice, I work with thoughts and belief systems all the time. It’s usually one of the first steps in ensuring my clients get results. Our thoughts have the power to set us up for success or failure, even before we start. The beauty is: we get to choose.

If you’re still not convinced, consider this: When you think about biting into a juicy sour lemon, what happens to your body? There is a physical reaction right? What about when you focus on someone you dislike, or an event that happened that really upset you. Your body becomes tense or maybe you have a tightening feeling in your chest or stomach. The point is, our thoughts have the power to create a physical experience. And this phenomenon is constantly at work, whether you are conscious of it or not. So why not use it to your advantage? More

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